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My husband died 2 years ago, it was an incredible 46 year romance and getting over his death was a challenge. This blog is all about how I dealt with his death, the strategies I used, the tools I discovered, the opportunities I embraced and the new preloved life I have built. My Blog is divided into Beginnings, Helped Me, Solo Life. and Sixty Days.


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When Life Goes in a New Direction
Nov 24, 2021
When Life Goes in a New Direction
Nov 24, 2021

Imagine getting a call from ITV News saying they’d run to interview you about your Airbnb experiences. I was happy to help, Airbnb has certainly played a big part in my life helping to overcome loneliness and filling my home with light. This is the story of what happened

Nov 24, 2021
NLP - Great Strategies For Change
Nov 24, 2021
NLP - Great Strategies For Change
Nov 24, 2021

NLP training is great way to learn new life strategies. An added bonus for me is that I made some great friends on the training course too.

Nov 24, 2021
How Journaling Saved Me
Nov 24, 2021
How Journaling Saved Me
Nov 24, 2021

I really enjoy writing in my journal, last night I wrote 14 pages about the Ipswich Spill Festival . Find out how my journals have helped me.

Nov 24, 2021
Moscow, End of the Line
Nov 24, 2021
Moscow, End of the Line
Nov 24, 2021

This series of blogs was written in the Summer of 2017, I wanted to bring them into MyPrelovedLife to remind me of the wonderful adventures I had travelling 20,000 miles around the world, feeling safe and loved by so many people. Travelling across the entire length of Russian, through Siberia to Moscow, end of the line for me.

Nov 24, 2021
On Board the Trans Siberian Express
Nov 24, 2021
On Board the Trans Siberian Express
Nov 24, 2021

This series of blogs was written in the Summer of 2017, I wanted to bring them into MyPrelovedLife to remind me of the wonderful adventures I had travelling 20,000 miles around the world, feeling safe and loved by so many people. Travelling across the entire length of Russian, from Beijing through Siberia to Moscow

Nov 24, 2021
My Beijing Life
Nov 24, 2021
My Beijing Life
Nov 24, 2021

This series of blogs was written in the Summer of 2017, I wanted to bring them into MyPrelovedLife to remind me of the wonderful adventures I had travelling 20,000 miles around the world, feeling safe and loved by so many people. Cycling in Beijing, close to the Forbidden City and climbing the Great Wall of China

Nov 24, 2021
Shanghai Friends and Culture
Nov 24, 2021
Shanghai Friends and Culture
Nov 24, 2021

This series of blogs was written in the Summer of 2017, I wanted to bring them into MyPrelovedLife to remind me of the wonderful adventures I had travelling 20,000 miles around the world, feeling safe and loved by so many people. My fourth country, China, Shanghai

Nov 24, 2021
All At Sea
Nov 24, 2021
All At Sea
Nov 24, 2021

This series of blogs was written in the Summer of 2017, I wanted to bring them into MyPrelovedLife to remind me of the wonderful adventures I had travelling 20,000 miles around the world, feeling safe and loved by so many people. Sailing from Osaka through the inland Japanese sea to Shanghai was wonderfully cathartic

Nov 24, 2021
Miyajima, The Most Photogenic Place on Earth
Nov 24, 2021
Miyajima, The Most Photogenic Place on Earth
Nov 24, 2021

This series of blogs was written in the Summer of 2017, I wanted to bring them into MyPrelovedLife to remind me of the wonderful adventures I had travelling 20,000 miles around the world, feeling safe and loved by so many people. Visiting the magical temple of Miyajima

Nov 24, 2021
My Pilgrimage to Hiroshima
Nov 24, 2021
My Pilgrimage to Hiroshima
Nov 24, 2021

This series of blogs was written in the Summer of 2017, I wanted to bring them into MyPrelovedLife to remind me of the wonderful adventures I had travelling 20,000 miles around the world, feeling safe and loved by so many people. Visiting the Peace Memorial in Hiroshima

Nov 24, 2021
Elene Marsden Running Through Covid

Running for Emotional Health in Covid Times

November 24, 2021 in Solo Life

I’ve never considered myself a runner but perhaps it’s time to review this. Before the Lockdown I was running intermittently, there was no pattern or commitment and I could only run about 1 mile.

But everything changed at the start of the Lockdown when the Government was encouraging us to take outside exercise once a day. So that’s when I decided to take up running as a hobby. It was strange running through the empty streets, it was like a ghost town, no people, no cars on the roads, no long waits for the traffic to clear before crossing the road. From that first run, it felt good to move, to fill my lungs with fresh air, uncontaminated with petrol fumes. This was going to work for me.

My first jog was on 24/3, from then on I ran most days, just a mile and a half and usually along the Ipswich Waterfront. After 21 runs in March and April, I decided to step it up for May and came up with the idea of running a Marathon, 2.6 miles a day for 10 runs. I had another reason to run too, Jo Revitt from the Papworth Trust was looking for people to raise money for her charity.

So that’s what I did. Some days it was a struggle to run, I felt like I was as slow as a snail, that extra mile was a challenge. The very last 2.6 miles was so different, I had a spring in my step, I ran faster than normal and I even managed to raise £136 for the Papworth Trust. Thanks to everyone who supported me.

It’s now 12 weeks since the Lockdown and the Government has lifted some restrictions so that we can now exercise as many times as we want during the day. But that’s coincided with fewer runs, Marathon Burnout!!

But on Sunday I went out with my son on a Slow Burn 8 mile run around Alton Waters.

I’ve walked around the reservoir many times getting blisters on my feet. But the Slow Burn run didn't hurt my feet at all, I felt invigorated after running using this method. This is how it works, you walk 15 minutes, you run 15 minutes, you walk 15 minutes, you run 30 minutes, you walk 15 minutes, you run 45 minutes and you run slowly but you always keep moving.

Stu Mittleman, the creator of this method, is the man who ran 1000 miles in less than 12 days and holds the American record for distance in six days — 577 miles.

I love Stu’s mantra

Focus on results and you won’t change. Focus on change and you’ll get results

When you run slow you burn fat, when you run fast you burn carbohydrates. My son has read Stu Mittleman’s book, Slow Burn and while we were running he shared anecdotes from the book, like imagine there's an invisible thread running through your spine to the top of your head, keeping you upright.

Just before we started the timer for the 45-minute run, I felt a sense of dread. I’ve never run for that long before. I managed to push those negative thoughts out of my mind and began the longest run of my life. And yes, we both did it!

Reflecting on that experience out in nature for over 2 hours, with cool but dry weather, lush green vegetation, scents in the air from pine trees, thyme plants and white hawthorn bushes, was a wonderful adventure. We both enjoyed the practice so much that we plan to run around the reservoir next week. Could this turn into a weekly habit?

I am so glad I can run. It’s therapy, it’s physically rewarding, it's free and it’s always available. Running helps with overwhelming emotions too. Yesterday I was collecting songs for my radio show, 2 of my husband's friends sent me songs that he’d always enjoyed. I decided to lay on my back with my earphones turned up listening to Nantucket Sleighride by Mountain. It’s a long track over 9 minutes long and as the guitar solo kicked in I started crying, missing my husband so much, he died 3 years ago now but the pain is still there. With tears pouring down my face, I got up and decided to go for a run even though I had things to do later that evening, they could wait.

I'm so glad I took action, running was what my body and mind needed right then. It was wonderful, I felt like I was running past the emotion, leaving it behind. I was in charge of my life and by the time I arrived home, I felt tired but glowing. Running is brilliant for state change work, a lifesaver. I’m so happy I have running in my life.

Let me know what you have in your life that can lift your spirits, especially during these crazy Covid times.

#MyPrelovedLife : 12/6/20

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