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My husband died 2 years ago, it was an incredible 46 year romance and getting over his death was a challenge. This blog is all about how I dealt with his death, the strategies I used, the tools I discovered, the opportunities I embraced and the new preloved life I have built. My Blog is divided into Beginnings, Helped Me, Solo Life. and Sixty Days.


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When Life Goes in a New Direction
Nov 24, 2021
When Life Goes in a New Direction
Nov 24, 2021

Imagine getting a call from ITV News saying they’d run to interview you about your Airbnb experiences. I was happy to help, Airbnb has certainly played a big part in my life helping to overcome loneliness and filling my home with light. This is the story of what happened

Nov 24, 2021
NLP - Great Strategies For Change
Nov 24, 2021
NLP - Great Strategies For Change
Nov 24, 2021

NLP training is great way to learn new life strategies. An added bonus for me is that I made some great friends on the training course too.

Nov 24, 2021
How Journaling Saved Me
Nov 24, 2021
How Journaling Saved Me
Nov 24, 2021

I really enjoy writing in my journal, last night I wrote 14 pages about the Ipswich Spill Festival . Find out how my journals have helped me.

Nov 24, 2021
Moscow, End of the Line
Nov 24, 2021
Moscow, End of the Line
Nov 24, 2021

This series of blogs was written in the Summer of 2017, I wanted to bring them into MyPrelovedLife to remind me of the wonderful adventures I had travelling 20,000 miles around the world, feeling safe and loved by so many people. Travelling across the entire length of Russian, through Siberia to Moscow, end of the line for me.

Nov 24, 2021
On Board the Trans Siberian Express
Nov 24, 2021
On Board the Trans Siberian Express
Nov 24, 2021

This series of blogs was written in the Summer of 2017, I wanted to bring them into MyPrelovedLife to remind me of the wonderful adventures I had travelling 20,000 miles around the world, feeling safe and loved by so many people. Travelling across the entire length of Russian, from Beijing through Siberia to Moscow

Nov 24, 2021
My Beijing Life
Nov 24, 2021
My Beijing Life
Nov 24, 2021

This series of blogs was written in the Summer of 2017, I wanted to bring them into MyPrelovedLife to remind me of the wonderful adventures I had travelling 20,000 miles around the world, feeling safe and loved by so many people. Cycling in Beijing, close to the Forbidden City and climbing the Great Wall of China

Nov 24, 2021
Shanghai Friends and Culture
Nov 24, 2021
Shanghai Friends and Culture
Nov 24, 2021

This series of blogs was written in the Summer of 2017, I wanted to bring them into MyPrelovedLife to remind me of the wonderful adventures I had travelling 20,000 miles around the world, feeling safe and loved by so many people. My fourth country, China, Shanghai

Nov 24, 2021
All At Sea
Nov 24, 2021
All At Sea
Nov 24, 2021

This series of blogs was written in the Summer of 2017, I wanted to bring them into MyPrelovedLife to remind me of the wonderful adventures I had travelling 20,000 miles around the world, feeling safe and loved by so many people. Sailing from Osaka through the inland Japanese sea to Shanghai was wonderfully cathartic

Nov 24, 2021
Miyajima, The Most Photogenic Place on Earth
Nov 24, 2021
Miyajima, The Most Photogenic Place on Earth
Nov 24, 2021

This series of blogs was written in the Summer of 2017, I wanted to bring them into MyPrelovedLife to remind me of the wonderful adventures I had travelling 20,000 miles around the world, feeling safe and loved by so many people. Visiting the magical temple of Miyajima

Nov 24, 2021
My Pilgrimage to Hiroshima
Nov 24, 2021
My Pilgrimage to Hiroshima
Nov 24, 2021

This series of blogs was written in the Summer of 2017, I wanted to bring them into MyPrelovedLife to remind me of the wonderful adventures I had travelling 20,000 miles around the world, feeling safe and loved by so many people. Visiting the Peace Memorial in Hiroshima

Nov 24, 2021

All At Sea

November 24, 2021 in Sixty Days

My Home for the Next 3 Days

Taking a boat trip, especially when there’s only a few dozen passengers on board, is like going on a meditation retreat. You have so much time to yourself but if you want company it’s there.
I don’t have all the statistics about the Xinjianzhen, it’s a ferry boat operated by the China-Japan International Ferry Co Ltd. All I know is that I’m in Special Class on the top deck, I have my own cabin with a shower and toilet. When I saw my living quarters I was so very happy and in this space I’ve finished writing my blogs and brought my journal up to date, almost full now. Thanks Lyn Clarke for your special gift.
 
Leaving Osaka was sad, Lyle took me to the ferry terminal before flying off on holiday with Sumire to Okinawa, the Japanese version of Hawaii, only better I’m sure! 😉

We waved vigorously, I cried a bit, we smiled and blew kisses as the ship sailed out of the harbour. For the next few hours I contemplated my situation sailing to China, I shed lots of tears because Steve and I were supposed to take this ferry together. I remember he told me about all the tiny islands around Japan and I was blown away by the beauty of the views that were all around me..
 
It was warm, no hot it was hot with a beautiful breeze, the inland waters were calm, the sun set was breath-taking. It just wasn’t possible to feel sorry for myself for long surrounded by all this beauty.
 
And then I met Nobuhisa who only happens to be a Baptist lay preacher. A Japanese man heading to China for an 8 day trip to Harpin. He’d lost his wife to cancer 2 years ago and although he didn’t speak a huge amount of English, we shared a similar path. We spent many hours just sitting, watching the waves, trying to spot flying fish ( I saw 2) looking up at the shooting stars, while he quietly sang Japanese songs to me. So sweet.

During the day it was too hot to spend long periods on deck but sitting in the sun being bathed by the hot wind whilst watching other boats go by was very therapeutic, and of course there’s regular calls for breakfast, lunch and dinner. The first lunch I sat alone and struggled to order from the menu but after that I shared a table with Nobuhisa and a few beers too. He told me he enjoyed a bottle of Kirin, the 5% Japanese beer and wasn’t keen on the weaker Chinese beer, only 3%. I was so moved when he sang a Japanese hymn to me to the tune of Danny Boy.

On the second day we’d left the inland Japanese sea with all its islands and impressive bridges and we were now truly at sea, the East China sea and it got a bit choppy. I never felt really sick and if the rocking got too strong, I just imagined I was swinging in my hammock in the garden and that helped.

The people you meet on board ship, a young Australian couple who live in China but had to travel to Japan to get their visas renewed. They live in the heart of the Chinese countryside where they’re learning Kung Fu, I had an invite to go visit them and then I met Shenrong and her 4 year old daughter, her special gift because she didn’t think she’d be able to have any children. On the first day, she could see I was upset, I told her about my husband and she hugged me, we’d hardly spoken but she showed so much kindness and compassion.  During my travels I’ve held onto the idea from Jane Murray’s Peacebeams, when you look at people say “Just Like Me” This is so true

So what do a people do for entertainment onboard a ferry? They sing Karaoke at the bar. On the first night, I asked for Hey Jude and belted out the song without embarrassment. The next night my 2 new friends joined me. Shenrong told me that Chinese people believe that singing is good for the health and even the TV screens tell you how many calories you’ve burnt with each song. We laughed and enjoyed each others company. I wish I could speak more languages, crazy having to rely on people to speak English.
 
I only have a few hours now before arriving in Shanghai, I plan to pack and go on deck as we draw closer to the city. I’m sure China is going to be completely mind-blowing experience but I’m ready. The crossing has been cathartic.

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July 2017

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