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My husband died 2 years ago, it was an incredible 46 year romance and getting over his death was a challenge. This blog is all about how I dealt with his death, the strategies I used, the tools I discovered, the opportunities I embraced and the new preloved life I have built. My Blog is divided into Beginnings, Helped Me, Solo Life. and Sixty Days.


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When Life Goes in a New Direction
Nov 24, 2021
When Life Goes in a New Direction
Nov 24, 2021

Imagine getting a call from ITV News saying they’d run to interview you about your Airbnb experiences. I was happy to help, Airbnb has certainly played a big part in my life helping to overcome loneliness and filling my home with light. This is the story of what happened

Nov 24, 2021
NLP - Great Strategies For Change
Nov 24, 2021
NLP - Great Strategies For Change
Nov 24, 2021

NLP training is great way to learn new life strategies. An added bonus for me is that I made some great friends on the training course too.

Nov 24, 2021
How Journaling Saved Me
Nov 24, 2021
How Journaling Saved Me
Nov 24, 2021

I really enjoy writing in my journal, last night I wrote 14 pages about the Ipswich Spill Festival . Find out how my journals have helped me.

Nov 24, 2021
Moscow, End of the Line
Nov 24, 2021
Moscow, End of the Line
Nov 24, 2021

This series of blogs was written in the Summer of 2017, I wanted to bring them into MyPrelovedLife to remind me of the wonderful adventures I had travelling 20,000 miles around the world, feeling safe and loved by so many people. Travelling across the entire length of Russian, through Siberia to Moscow, end of the line for me.

Nov 24, 2021
On Board the Trans Siberian Express
Nov 24, 2021
On Board the Trans Siberian Express
Nov 24, 2021

This series of blogs was written in the Summer of 2017, I wanted to bring them into MyPrelovedLife to remind me of the wonderful adventures I had travelling 20,000 miles around the world, feeling safe and loved by so many people. Travelling across the entire length of Russian, from Beijing through Siberia to Moscow

Nov 24, 2021
My Beijing Life
Nov 24, 2021
My Beijing Life
Nov 24, 2021

This series of blogs was written in the Summer of 2017, I wanted to bring them into MyPrelovedLife to remind me of the wonderful adventures I had travelling 20,000 miles around the world, feeling safe and loved by so many people. Cycling in Beijing, close to the Forbidden City and climbing the Great Wall of China

Nov 24, 2021
Shanghai Friends and Culture
Nov 24, 2021
Shanghai Friends and Culture
Nov 24, 2021

This series of blogs was written in the Summer of 2017, I wanted to bring them into MyPrelovedLife to remind me of the wonderful adventures I had travelling 20,000 miles around the world, feeling safe and loved by so many people. My fourth country, China, Shanghai

Nov 24, 2021
All At Sea
Nov 24, 2021
All At Sea
Nov 24, 2021

This series of blogs was written in the Summer of 2017, I wanted to bring them into MyPrelovedLife to remind me of the wonderful adventures I had travelling 20,000 miles around the world, feeling safe and loved by so many people. Sailing from Osaka through the inland Japanese sea to Shanghai was wonderfully cathartic

Nov 24, 2021
Miyajima, The Most Photogenic Place on Earth
Nov 24, 2021
Miyajima, The Most Photogenic Place on Earth
Nov 24, 2021

This series of blogs was written in the Summer of 2017, I wanted to bring them into MyPrelovedLife to remind me of the wonderful adventures I had travelling 20,000 miles around the world, feeling safe and loved by so many people. Visiting the magical temple of Miyajima

Nov 24, 2021
My Pilgrimage to Hiroshima
Nov 24, 2021
My Pilgrimage to Hiroshima
Nov 24, 2021

This series of blogs was written in the Summer of 2017, I wanted to bring them into MyPrelovedLife to remind me of the wonderful adventures I had travelling 20,000 miles around the world, feeling safe and loved by so many people. Visiting the Peace Memorial in Hiroshima

Nov 24, 2021
Elene Marsden Red Wine

My Life in Covid 19 Times

November 24, 2021 in Solo Life

It's now been 4 weeks since the Lockdown. It’s amazing how I've become used to this new norm but I find myself doing things I’ve not done for decades and things I’ve never done before.

Take last weekend when I cleaned my upstairs and downstairs blinds. A fiddly job that took hours but living in this house on my own gives me the feeling that I have endless time on my hands. I’ve been baking too, 2 batches of rock cakes and a bakestone of Welsh cakes.

I’m cooking differently, using up whatever is in the fridge, I throw very little away now. Everything feels more precious somehow, I don't want to take anything for granted.

In the first week of Lockdown, I started showing people how to use Zoom, fitness instructors, artists, musicians. It was something I could do. I felt like I was making a difference. I recorded YouTube videos too, one has had almost 500 views.

4 weeks on and everyone knows how to use Zoom now. Innovative virtual parties are springing up everywhere, pub quizzes, book readings, music concerts and fitness classes. I even took part in the Morning Gloryville sober virtual rave on Saturday morning with 1000 other ravers.

I’m back on the radio too, twice a week Stephen Spencer and I broadcast a Corona Virus Special. Our first show was in the ICR studios but several days after that first show the Government told us not to leave our homes apart from essential food shopping and one hour of exercise each day. But that hasn't stopped our public broadcasting. I was lent a mixing desk and a studio mic and after hours of remote IT support, I’m now streaming to the airwaves from my studio at home, sometimes I'll even do a live Zoom to Facebook stream.

Yes, I’ve been doing crazy things, I took part in a wonderful collaboration with friends around the world connecting Moscow to Thailand to Hong Kong to Trinidad to Ipswich!!! We made a #DONTRUSHCHALLENGE video. A huge thank you to Margo Fifa for her production and video editing skills.

And if you want to find out more about the Don’t Rush Challenge going viral during the Lockdown, read this https://www.teenvogue.com/story/dont-rush-challenge-creator

We’ve been told to stay at home to protect our NHS, to help stop the spread of the virus which has turned our lives upside down. Colleges and schools are closed, restaurants, pubs are empty, only essential services are operating.

Many people are now working from home, impossible for many especially those in retail and service industries like hairdressers. How crazy when we need our hairdressers more than ever at the moment. Many families have discovered barbers in their midst with some impressive haircuts being shared online.

My fellow presenter Stephen is broadcasting from his boat at Ipswich Marina. We always have plenty to talk about including updates from our local council and social initiatives to help others in the community. This week we interviewed Ezra Hewing from Suffolk MIND to talk about the help available for those who are suffering mentally during these hard times. Loneliness and isolation can be very debilitating. We humans are sociable creatures we like to gather with friends when we’re happy and get support from others when we’re unhappy so having to self-isolate is tough.

The radio broadcasts, now 3 times each week give my life structure and meaning. I hope I'm sharing useful information for those stuck at home. Stephen and I have good rapport despite having to cope with technology that's often challenging.

Elene Marsden Runnning

The other routine in my life is running, I go out most days only just over a mile and a slow one at that but it feels good to exercise. There's no waiting to cross the roads because there’s no traffic, the air smells fresher too. I plan to keep running after the Lockdown as well as meditating every day.

My Medication Waking Up app is telling me I’ve completed an 19-day continuous streak! Being at home alone is sometimes hard, the long Friday and Saturday nights when I get back from a run and its only 5.30 pm and I wonder what I’ll do for the next 6 hours is difficult!

I’ve tried different things, I’ve been on a virtual date night, dressing up for the occasion, enjoying a couple of glasses of red wine plus great conversation for 2 hours, I’ve watched movies, I’ve painted a rainbow for my window inspired by Crystal Stanley’s Rainbow Trail Facebook group.

I’ve attempted a jigsaw puzzle of a beautiful field of lavender with lots of blue skies. This didn't work for me, I thought I'd experience a deep sense of peace as I laid out the 1000 pieces. Within half an hour of sorting out all the flat-edged pieces but within half an hour I was frustrated. This was a difficult puzzle and instead of relaxation, I felt tense. It’s now back in the box and I’ve offered it to friends on Facebook. I was surprised at how many people were interested. I wish I had 10 jigsaws to give away.

More routines in my week include drinking a glass of wine on Zoom with my yoga friends, a weekly family Zoom meeting primarily for my tech-savvy 89-year-old mother in law who loves seeing her grandchildren who live around the world and every Sunday afternoon I meet my neighbours at the front of our houses. Yes, more wine is involved in this gathering too!!.

Elene Marsden with Neighbours

It's great to see people, we kept our 2 metres social distance but seeing people face to face is a real treat. The weather has been so very pleasant since the Lockdown.

So now we wait for another 2 weeks to see if any restrictions will be relaxed. I think we may experience more problems as we take those first steps back out into the world, let’s see.

In the meantime, nature carries on regardless. This sunflower seed in a pot in my garden is pushing its way out of the soil, driving upwards, full of purpose and direction.

Nature, my inspiration.

Are you living on your own? What strategies have you found helpful?

#MyPrelovedLife : 24/4/20

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