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My husband died 2 years ago, it was an incredible 46 year romance and getting over his death was a challenge. This blog is all about how I dealt with his death, the strategies I used, the tools I discovered, the opportunities I embraced and the new preloved life I have built. My Blog is divided into Beginnings, Helped Me, Solo Life. and Sixty Days.


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When Life Goes in a New Direction
Nov 24, 2021
When Life Goes in a New Direction
Nov 24, 2021

Imagine getting a call from ITV News saying they’d run to interview you about your Airbnb experiences. I was happy to help, Airbnb has certainly played a big part in my life helping to overcome loneliness and filling my home with light. This is the story of what happened

Nov 24, 2021
NLP - Great Strategies For Change
Nov 24, 2021
NLP - Great Strategies For Change
Nov 24, 2021

NLP training is great way to learn new life strategies. An added bonus for me is that I made some great friends on the training course too.

Nov 24, 2021
How Journaling Saved Me
Nov 24, 2021
How Journaling Saved Me
Nov 24, 2021

I really enjoy writing in my journal, last night I wrote 14 pages about the Ipswich Spill Festival . Find out how my journals have helped me.

Nov 24, 2021
Moscow, End of the Line
Nov 24, 2021
Moscow, End of the Line
Nov 24, 2021

This series of blogs was written in the Summer of 2017, I wanted to bring them into MyPrelovedLife to remind me of the wonderful adventures I had travelling 20,000 miles around the world, feeling safe and loved by so many people. Travelling across the entire length of Russian, through Siberia to Moscow, end of the line for me.

Nov 24, 2021
On Board the Trans Siberian Express
Nov 24, 2021
On Board the Trans Siberian Express
Nov 24, 2021

This series of blogs was written in the Summer of 2017, I wanted to bring them into MyPrelovedLife to remind me of the wonderful adventures I had travelling 20,000 miles around the world, feeling safe and loved by so many people. Travelling across the entire length of Russian, from Beijing through Siberia to Moscow

Nov 24, 2021
My Beijing Life
Nov 24, 2021
My Beijing Life
Nov 24, 2021

This series of blogs was written in the Summer of 2017, I wanted to bring them into MyPrelovedLife to remind me of the wonderful adventures I had travelling 20,000 miles around the world, feeling safe and loved by so many people. Cycling in Beijing, close to the Forbidden City and climbing the Great Wall of China

Nov 24, 2021
Shanghai Friends and Culture
Nov 24, 2021
Shanghai Friends and Culture
Nov 24, 2021

This series of blogs was written in the Summer of 2017, I wanted to bring them into MyPrelovedLife to remind me of the wonderful adventures I had travelling 20,000 miles around the world, feeling safe and loved by so many people. My fourth country, China, Shanghai

Nov 24, 2021
All At Sea
Nov 24, 2021
All At Sea
Nov 24, 2021

This series of blogs was written in the Summer of 2017, I wanted to bring them into MyPrelovedLife to remind me of the wonderful adventures I had travelling 20,000 miles around the world, feeling safe and loved by so many people. Sailing from Osaka through the inland Japanese sea to Shanghai was wonderfully cathartic

Nov 24, 2021
Miyajima, The Most Photogenic Place on Earth
Nov 24, 2021
Miyajima, The Most Photogenic Place on Earth
Nov 24, 2021

This series of blogs was written in the Summer of 2017, I wanted to bring them into MyPrelovedLife to remind me of the wonderful adventures I had travelling 20,000 miles around the world, feeling safe and loved by so many people. Visiting the magical temple of Miyajima

Nov 24, 2021
My Pilgrimage to Hiroshima
Nov 24, 2021
My Pilgrimage to Hiroshima
Nov 24, 2021

This series of blogs was written in the Summer of 2017, I wanted to bring them into MyPrelovedLife to remind me of the wonderful adventures I had travelling 20,000 miles around the world, feeling safe and loved by so many people. Visiting the Peace Memorial in Hiroshima

Nov 24, 2021
Elene Marsden Supports St Elizabeths Hospice

Pop Up Shop for St Elizabeth's Hospice

November 23, 2021 in Solo Life

I received a call from my local hospice asking if I could help a gentleman who’d just recently lost his wife sell her clothes. Chris, the wife, loved clothes and shoes and had a vast collection of designer bags, scarves, coats, jackets and dresses. Phil, the husband needed help promoting a pop-up shop he was opening with his 2 grandchildren. One of the town centre shops kindly donated free space to the family for one week over half-term.

I knew I could help. Preloved Chica (that’s me) has her own YouTube Channel with a loyal fan base. The first step was to visit Phil at home. I spent 2 hours filming clothes and shoes and yes, there was enough clothing to open a shop!

Chris had style and was an avid collector of top quality designer clothing. When I saw the mountain of wooden shoe trees it was obvious she'd really looked after her shoes. She’d also fold t-shirts inside out to stop them fading, as a result her clothes were immaculate and well loved.

As Phil was describing his wife's clothes, the stories came tumbling out, he explained where his wife liked to shop in Paris, the San Germaine district. He described the places they used to go, every dress had its story. I pictured Phil imagining his wife in her fine clothes as he held up each item for the camera. It’s clear that Phil is still wrapped in the arms of grief but as he was talking I felt sure that his family would appreciate his honesty and his love for Chris. His story is portrayed so movingly in this video.

As I pulled away from Phil’s house my eyes started to well up with tears. Chris had died in similar circumstances to my husband, in the same hospice where the care was outstanding. I was right back to the time I spent in the hospice kitchen where there are no boundaries between the relatives and staff who shared the same space. Many times I received welcome hugs from the volunteer staff who just seemed to know what to say and what to do.

I've done my very best to support Phil and his mission to leave a legacy for his 2 grandchildren. The profits from the sale of all the clothes will be split 50:50 between the hospice and the grandchildren.

It took me over 8 hours to produce this video. Phil's pleased with the result and I'm sure there will be a huge crowd on the first trading day of the Pop-Up shop. Phil will also be joining me on my Preloved Chica ICR Time Capsule show next Wednesday to tell his story.

Working together towards this good cause will help unite the family as they come to terms with their grief and of course, St Elizabeth’s Hospice will get the important funds they need to continue the outstanding work they do for the community.

Phil has invited me to take my pick of the clothes before they go on sale. I will ask for the black Bally handbag and whenever I use this bag I will be reminded of Phil and his wife Chris.

#MyPrelovedLife : 1/2/19

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