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My husband died 2 years ago, it was an incredible 46 year romance and getting over his death was a challenge. This blog is all about how I dealt with his death, the strategies I used, the tools I discovered, the opportunities I embraced and the new preloved life I have built. My Blog is divided into Beginnings, Helped Me, Solo Life. and Sixty Days.


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When Life Goes in a New Direction
Nov 24, 2021
When Life Goes in a New Direction
Nov 24, 2021

Imagine getting a call from ITV News saying they’d run to interview you about your Airbnb experiences. I was happy to help, Airbnb has certainly played a big part in my life helping to overcome loneliness and filling my home with light. This is the story of what happened

Nov 24, 2021
NLP - Great Strategies For Change
Nov 24, 2021
NLP - Great Strategies For Change
Nov 24, 2021

NLP training is great way to learn new life strategies. An added bonus for me is that I made some great friends on the training course too.

Nov 24, 2021
How Journaling Saved Me
Nov 24, 2021
How Journaling Saved Me
Nov 24, 2021

I really enjoy writing in my journal, last night I wrote 14 pages about the Ipswich Spill Festival . Find out how my journals have helped me.

Nov 24, 2021
Moscow, End of the Line
Nov 24, 2021
Moscow, End of the Line
Nov 24, 2021

This series of blogs was written in the Summer of 2017, I wanted to bring them into MyPrelovedLife to remind me of the wonderful adventures I had travelling 20,000 miles around the world, feeling safe and loved by so many people. Travelling across the entire length of Russian, through Siberia to Moscow, end of the line for me.

Nov 24, 2021
On Board the Trans Siberian Express
Nov 24, 2021
On Board the Trans Siberian Express
Nov 24, 2021

This series of blogs was written in the Summer of 2017, I wanted to bring them into MyPrelovedLife to remind me of the wonderful adventures I had travelling 20,000 miles around the world, feeling safe and loved by so many people. Travelling across the entire length of Russian, from Beijing through Siberia to Moscow

Nov 24, 2021
My Beijing Life
Nov 24, 2021
My Beijing Life
Nov 24, 2021

This series of blogs was written in the Summer of 2017, I wanted to bring them into MyPrelovedLife to remind me of the wonderful adventures I had travelling 20,000 miles around the world, feeling safe and loved by so many people. Cycling in Beijing, close to the Forbidden City and climbing the Great Wall of China

Nov 24, 2021
Shanghai Friends and Culture
Nov 24, 2021
Shanghai Friends and Culture
Nov 24, 2021

This series of blogs was written in the Summer of 2017, I wanted to bring them into MyPrelovedLife to remind me of the wonderful adventures I had travelling 20,000 miles around the world, feeling safe and loved by so many people. My fourth country, China, Shanghai

Nov 24, 2021
All At Sea
Nov 24, 2021
All At Sea
Nov 24, 2021

This series of blogs was written in the Summer of 2017, I wanted to bring them into MyPrelovedLife to remind me of the wonderful adventures I had travelling 20,000 miles around the world, feeling safe and loved by so many people. Sailing from Osaka through the inland Japanese sea to Shanghai was wonderfully cathartic

Nov 24, 2021
Miyajima, The Most Photogenic Place on Earth
Nov 24, 2021
Miyajima, The Most Photogenic Place on Earth
Nov 24, 2021

This series of blogs was written in the Summer of 2017, I wanted to bring them into MyPrelovedLife to remind me of the wonderful adventures I had travelling 20,000 miles around the world, feeling safe and loved by so many people. Visiting the magical temple of Miyajima

Nov 24, 2021
My Pilgrimage to Hiroshima
Nov 24, 2021
My Pilgrimage to Hiroshima
Nov 24, 2021

This series of blogs was written in the Summer of 2017, I wanted to bring them into MyPrelovedLife to remind me of the wonderful adventures I had travelling 20,000 miles around the world, feeling safe and loved by so many people. Visiting the Peace Memorial in Hiroshima

Nov 24, 2021
Elene Marsden

My Failed Saturday Night Sober Pub Crawl

November 23, 2021 in Solo Life

I didn’t fail because I drank alcohol, I failed because I couldn’t find the pub crawllers!

I spent Friday night at home watching back to back episodes of The Vikings, Season 6, and let me tell you it’s not for the faint-hearted. I’d watched the first 4 seasons with Steve, we both enjoyed watching together. I even had an image of Lagertha Lothbruk, Viking Shield Maiden as my screen saver for a while.

It's so much harder to watch The Vikings on your own because it’s so violent, and without a shoulder to bury your face in, I had to resort to pausing the TV, browse my phone for a bit until I was strong enough to continue. I can't have any Viking blood in me!

By the time Saturday night came around I had to go out, staying in 2 weekend nights in a row was not an option for such a social butterfly.

I checked events in Ipswich and found the Weekly Saturday Pub Crawl social, first stop a pub in the centre of town.

I signed up and then thought how weird this is going to be. I'm midway through a self-imposed 21 Days Sober for January challenge. I can do it, a pub crawl without alcohol!

With my free Eventbrite ticket printed out, I was ready for the evening. The only instructions were to arrive at 7.00 pm and wear something purple, I chose a sparkly pair of hand-knitted purple gloves that I’d made myself and a purple scarf.

Elene Marsden Purple Gloves

The bar was packed, I asked for a non-alcoholic bottle of Koppaberg cider served with lots of ice and fruit. It looked just like the alcohol version, it was refreshing too but perhaps a bit too sweet. As the bartender poured my drink I asked her if she knew about the pub crawl group. She had no idea and after a quick walk around the bar checking for purple people and finding no-one, I sat down at a table. I felt a bit awkward, this is not my regular haunt but browsing my phone gave me something to focus on. 

And then as if by magic, 5 people sat down right next to me, a range of ages, one girl and one guy wearing a purple sweatshirt! By this time I’d taken off the gloves and scarf and was in incognito, not a trace of purple insight. I debated whether to introduce myself.

Go For It Girl, I thought and said, “ Excuse me, are you the Saturday Night Pub Crawl Group?” They looked at me, bemused and said, “Yes, we’re on a pub crawl” However, they had no idea about tickets and purple clothing. They were pleasant enough, loved that I was from Barry. ( It seems like everyone watched the Gavin and Stacey Christmas Special ), they even invited me to tag along with them. We chatted for about 10 minutes but once my glass was empty, I decided to go, my group had already started to drift towards 1:1 conversations.

On the walk home I decided the experience was worthwhile and my sober challenge was still rock solid with no awkward questions asked and I still had the Vikings waiting for me at home.

Today’s mission as a solo adventurer didn’t quite work out but I felt pleased with myself for trying something new. 

Till next time.

Have you ever been on a pub crawl, sober?

#MyPrelovedLife : 20/1/20

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